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Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012, 07:00 pm
Civil partnership: Love, not politics

I am very disturbed to hear from ristin that a lot of his friends think that our registering our civil partnership today was an attempt to make a statement. We have lived together for over 7 years; we don't need to make a statement. We wanted our relationship to be legally recognised and, so far as is possible, to have the same legal protection as a married heterosexual couple. There's also the symbolic aspect too, that after all these years we are able to "tie the knot", at least in this half-formed way.

The only political aspect was in the timing. We don't trust Campbell Newman, whose party on polling is likely to win the next state election, not to repeal the Civil Partnerships Act 2011, so we had to get in before he gets the chance.

But yes, Ristin and I got our civil partnership registered. The lady at the counter who helped us was friendly and supportive, but it was still a cold bureaucratic affair. We didn't have time for anything more than that, as we were racing against the clock. Later we will hold a ceremony to commemorate it, but that will take time to work out and to find the right person to act as MC. We might have two: One in the daylight dressed to the nines and another at night in fursuit (or rubber suit, as the case may be).
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Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012 10:05 am (UTC)
lotusvine

Congratulations!!! Let me know when the big day is!

Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012 10:30 am (UTC)
schnee

Wonderful, congrats! I'm really happy for the two of you. ^_^

Yeah, these official acts tend to be quite formal and cold. I was at the civil partnership ceremony for a then-friend some ten years or so ago, and it was the same thing: the guy who did it was nice and friendly and obviously knew it was a special occasion for the groom and groom, but it wasn't quite the same as the pomp and circumstance that's usually connected with a wedding in church (I can see why many heterosexual couples still do both even today, and why they oftne consider the wedding in church to be the "real" one.)

That said, I'm sure your eventual ceremony will be wonderful, too — and yes, do take time to prepare it properly; there's no rush now. And a second ceremony at night in fursuit or rubber sounds great, too!

Again, congrats!
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Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012 09:44 pm (UTC)
schnee

Sounds like a great idea to me. :)

Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012 11:56 am (UTC)
porsupah

Oh, finestkind! True, I suppose such official matters do tend to lack much engagement, but that's the nature of the beast. The important thing, of course, is it's done. ^_^

Out of curiosity, how does Australia treat international same-sex couples? Can the international partner immigrate on the basis of marriage (in all but name)?
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Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012 12:25 pm (UTC)
sieobahn

Congratulations to you both!

Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012 12:28 pm (UTC)
sieobahn

Though the way you say it, "registering" brings to mind that pets are registered as well! ;)

Or if you are into conspiracy theories, maybe they are doing this to get lists of names for evil purposes...
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Tue, Mar. 13th, 2012 10:32 am (UTC)
marko_the_rat

I'm not ready for a tin foil hat yet, but when Rudd was proposing a similar scheme (which he never went through with of course) we were hesitant. We never trusted him. We don't have any such hesitations with this Queensland government scheme since it was an act of desperation borne from a dying government, and the (likely) incoming government has vowed to repeal it, so obviously neither of them are interested in keeping a register. There are some perverse benefits to being wanted by no one.

Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012 01:56 pm (UTC)
koula

Yay! Congrats as well. =:3

Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012 02:25 pm (UTC)
aldi

Congrats!! :D
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Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012 09:11 pm (UTC)
notalwaysweak

Yay for you both!

Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012 09:49 pm (UTC)
lupine52

Woot glad to hear your making it formal.

Now I am not up to par on your countries politics, but just how far reaching will this be? I mean is it only valid and recognized in all Australia or merely just in the Queensland province?

Wed, Mar. 7th, 2012 11:29 pm (UTC)
thump

Congrats!
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Thu, Mar. 8th, 2012 05:56 am (UTC)
ultratails42

Congrats for you both ^^. They just legalized same sex marriage here the other week. Lets hope it sticks!

Thu, Mar. 8th, 2012 09:08 am (UTC)
skawinski

Congratulations! I'm very happy to hear that you've decided to enter a legal partnership. And this is all it really is, just making one's relationship officially recognized, a statement is an exagerrated word to use.

Wishing you the best :)

Wed, Apr. 11th, 2012 07:58 am (UTC)
perspedragon

Wow, that's just silliness to say it's a statement. You have the right to seal your 7-year relationship with a civil ceremony. The only statement you and Ristin made was the same one Squirrel and I made by getting married -- and that is, you are committed to each other.