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Wed, Dec. 6th, 2006, 07:23 pm
Christmas scrooge?

If you weren't planning on getting me a gift, you probably weren't expecting anything from me either so you can safely disregard this message. If you were thinking of getting me something, at the risk of causing offence, may I please ask that you not? Christmas is always a difficult time for me, for various reasons, and I'd rather not add to my stress with the ritual of Christmas shopping. If you got me something I'd feel obligated to reciprocate. If however you have already bought me something I do feel I should reciprocate and so please let me know.

Wed, Dec. 6th, 2006 02:09 pm (UTC)

I know what you mean. Right now, I'm earning only just enough money to survive and pay my bills. So the only present I'll be buying for anyone is for my wife and that's it. Did you know that 85% of Britons are still in debt from last Christmas? That's because people here are so concerned about climbing the social ladder that they'll buy presents for everyone they've ever met! That's stupid, words can't even describe how dumb that is! And I refuse to let myself be sucked into that cycle. Christmas is about just being together and having a reason to be cheerful amongst the cold and the wind, not about purchasing yourself into debt!

Wed, Dec. 6th, 2006 03:38 pm (UTC)

::hugs the Rat::

So with you on this. I normally only buy for the immediate family, but this year I am obligated to get small somethings for my work mates (Japanese-based company and I'm baking instead of buying).

I sent a card, no stress, I'll get my holiday hug/snuggle when you come through this region.

::still hugging the Rat::

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Thu, Dec. 7th, 2006 08:39 am (UTC)

And believe me, when I am in a strange country, it will be hugely appreciated. Thank you, Kupok. *hug*

Thu, Dec. 7th, 2006 12:04 am (UTC)

I was going to give you a big polar bear hug for Christmas.

Is that still ok?
*big polar bear eyes*

Thu, Dec. 7th, 2006 08:38 am (UTC)

Big polar bear hugs are okay! I don't have to go shopping to reciprocate those!

Fri, Dec. 8th, 2006 07:11 pm (UTC)

Less you have to go to a chiropractor afterwards. n.n;;;

Fri, Dec. 8th, 2006 07:35 pm (UTC)

i only know you by association - i think we have a mutual freind in plasmadragon
anyway, i havent got ou a goft or car as i dpont know you well enough tbh, but here's my opinion of xmas presents

i dont expect them, i dont expect my freinds to expect them, if i give one its on impulse as a bit of fun, i do not expect something in exchange as otherwise it becomes as you say, a ritual and it rather loses its meaning

so my way of thinking is keep it spontaneous dont expect to get even in return or feel obliged to give even in return

a bit of randomness to it makes it all so more fun and meaningful, getting a goift if you do becomes a surprise again not a chore, and giving one if you chose to becomes a joy not a ritual... well it works for me anyway

whatever you do thsi season, i hope it goes well for you

Fri, Dec. 8th, 2006 11:17 pm (UTC)

Plasmadragon? Doesn't ring a bell. Oh no! Maybe we don't know each other at all! :)

You're idea sounds better, especially seeing as I don't have to worry about doing it at a particular time of year.