Two people apologised for calling Ristin cute today. Why? Is it a pejorative for a man? Does it imply that's the only thing I see in him? I feel quite secure on both counts, so it doesn't bother me at all. In fact, maybe Ristin needs to see more of it. I'm not sure he really appreciates just how good looking he is, and how someone less certain of him may fear him straying. Rather, with my burgeoning self esteem, I am more worried about myself straying. It is true I am now interested in exploring the limits of monogamy, but only with Ristin's knowledge and consent and (wherever possible) his participation. Were I ever to do something so dirty as to cheat on him, I would deserve to lose his love.
The work colleague who apologised for calling him cute said of this photo, "The stance he has hugging you like that, I thought, what a nice person." That says it all, really.