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Fri, Jan. 14th, 2005, 05:49 pm
One bad rat, and musings on the nature of love

For my previous post, I most humbly beg pardon, both of ristin and of my readers. I should understand that not everyone is as comfortable with nudity as I am, and exercise discretion. I had no right to post that photo without his permission. I didn't see it as a revealing photo, but rather as an expression of the love I feel in my heart for him and I wanted to share that with all of you. Understandably considering how much of a hottie he is, it was suggested I posted that photo in a boastful spirit. That was not my intention at all. If I must be found guilty of anything, I ask it be of having a surfeit of enthusiasm.

Two people apologised for calling Ristin cute today. Why? Is it a pejorative for a man? Does it imply that's the only thing I see in him? I feel quite secure on both counts, so it doesn't bother me at all. In fact, maybe Ristin needs to see more of it. I'm not sure he really appreciates just how good looking he is, and how someone less certain of him may fear him straying. Rather, with my burgeoning self esteem, I am more worried about myself straying. It is true I am now interested in exploring the limits of monogamy, but only with Ristin's knowledge and consent and (wherever possible) his participation. Were I ever to do something so dirty as to cheat on him, I would deserve to lose his love.

The work colleague who apologised for calling him cute said of this photo, "The stance he has hugging you like that, I thought, what a nice person." That says it all, really.
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Fri, Jan. 14th, 2005 09:20 am (UTC)

*grins* I was going to make a joke about it being fine with others too - but that would have been a bit unfair. (I've no particular drive to see someone's naked form - revealing or otherwise :P) *huggles each of your fully-clothed forms*

Fri, Jan. 14th, 2005 12:20 pm (UTC)
myzer: Is it teh c00t. :)

I first reaction to the piccy was to giggle.

It may have been a nude pic, but I guess to me it was an artful (is that word) pic. There was no nasty bits or anything like that showing.

As far as cute goes, I can't really comment, being the raging hetro that I am (wasn't that a line that Paul Kidd used), and also not knowing Ristin from a bar of soap, and also having only met you something like twice in person in ten years. :)

More than anything I think it just tells that you have founds someone special, and one of these days I will have the chance to meet Ristin in person.

PS. To a previous post that I am too lazy to look up, the rat head from Rose Quoll is looking unbelievable.

Fri, Jan. 14th, 2005 07:10 pm (UTC)
marko_the_rat: Re: Is it teh c00t. :)

one of these days I will have the chance to meet Ristin in person

Sooner than you think? Are you still in Sydney? On the way between Sydney and Brisbane?

Sun, Jan. 16th, 2005 10:14 am (UTC)
myzer: Re: Is it teh c00t. :)

I think "On the way between Sydney and Brisbane" is reasonable accurate unless I am at work, in which case "In Sydney" is also quite apt.

I'm on the Central Coast of NSW (about 100k north of Sydney) these days, but commute daily to Sydney so I can get a paycheck every now and then. :)

Mon, Jan. 17th, 2005 08:52 pm (UTC)
marko_the_rat: Re: Is it teh c00t. :)

That's one hell of a commute! Ristin and I will be coming down to Sydney (with rosequoll and stephenquoll) for the Mardis Gras, but we won't have a lot of time spare.

Wed, Jan. 19th, 2005 12:02 pm (UTC)
myzer: Re: Is it teh c00t. :)

Hmm, might have to see if I can find five minutes of you time to catch up. :)

Drop me an email at myzer@boohaar.com to see if we can organize a quick hi/bye during the chaos that is Mardi Gras. :)

Fri, Jan. 14th, 2005 02:37 pm (UTC)
kit_ping: Yes, he's cute. :)

It's because, I've decided, that people think when they say your mate is cute that they then worry you'll think they have designs on him. At a con a few years back another female fur came up to Nic (who had been helping her with her fursuit), gave him a hug, and called him cute. She then noticed me and said, "Wait, are you two... together?" We showed off our matching rings; she leapt back about a foot and quickly said, "Oh, never mind! No offense- he's not cute, then!" I just rolled my eyes and replied, "Look, you can think he's cute. I think he's cute. You just don't get to grope him is all."

*shakes head* It's like people getting upset because their partner is checking out other men/women/whatever. Visual attraction- lust, even- is a physical reaction. Love is an emotional commitment. One might grow from the other, but they're worlds apart on their own.

'Sides, if it were required that people in a committed relationship never notice others, Nic and I would have come to blows over Legolas by now. ;)

Fri, Jan. 14th, 2005 03:15 pm (UTC)
kendermouse: you are NOT a BAD RAT! ::snuggles::

For my previous post, I most humbly beg pardon... of my readers.

Oh, hon. I, for one, was NOT offended and found the picture to be both tasteful AND appreciated ::wg::. Posting it, and the comment with it, spoke VERY CLEARLY of the love and affection you have for him and it's NORMAL to want to share that with EVERYONE. (You should have SEEN me when Lady and i first got together. I couldn't stop BOUNCING or Telling people JUST how awesome she was to me. I was told it was... CUTE ::sigh:: - more on the "C" word in a bit.) The nudity was tasteful and Ristin has NOTHING to be ashamed of. And feel free to pass that on! Everyone needs to hear that at least once a day!

the "C" word. I apologized, not because Ristin doesn't FIT the c word, but because most of the men i know (both straight AND gay) don't like being called CUTE. Attractive, sexy, dashing, even "striking" are ok... but CUTE is to be reserved for puppies and LITTLE boys or little girls in pigtails and ribbons. It is GENERALLY said (but not ALWAYS) with the tone of "oh you're cute... in a non-sexual, bouncy, pat you on the head and send you on your way kind of way." NOW that said, not everyone MEANS it that way or uses that TONE with it. But over the net, without a tonal context... it can be hard to tell HOW it's meant. So when i asked, i was just making sure it hadn't been taken wrong. Because Ristin... (and you too, Marko!) is just absolutely ADORABLE and sexy!cute.

You too look VERY happy and i'm happy FOR you. Thank you so much for sharing your joy with the rest of us.

the kendermouse

Mon, Jan. 17th, 2005 08:42 pm (UTC)

I thought the pic of Ristin was very artfully done. To be honest, I kind of thought it was posed, because of how it reveals nothing while showing everything. As a person who loves pictures, both taking, posing, and just looking at those by others, I am jealous of how well done that pic is.

It also reminded me of that Ristin is one of the few males on earth that I actually find physically attractive.